Ladies, throughout life you will probably date many people. Some of these relationships will work for only short periods of time, some will last a lifetime. The traits people look for in another person, when grouped together, work to commonly create a Jung-like personality type.Every human is in a different situation, and desires different qualities; These qualities can be found in one of the sixteen different personality types. So you have decided that you are looking for an highly outspoken, rule breaking, highly prideful,spontaneity filled, beyond arrogant, ever changing, long winded, word picky, know-it-all with a gentle side. Congratulations, you have just chosen a particularly peculiar personality the ENFP. You are either extremely bored, delusional, or insane at this point in your life. I say this because you have just chosen to date me. Now here is your warning.
There are many important factors in a long term partnership;however, I will cover three areas: Career, Family and Love, these are the areas that are addressed, using traits found in the ENFP males. These contradictory, flamboyant, gregarious, outrageous, supercharged, bouncing balls of chaos, destruction and love may, can, and will rain destruction upon these areas of your life.
An ENFP will change many careers over their lifetime and many career paths.Yes, I said change careers, these arrogant fools will try to change anything, at anytime and they are arrogant enough to try to change an entire career into something that matches their unique vision.Good luck trying to understand this vision.
They do not consider the practical implications in career moves, including but not limited to financial obligations, location or any other “logical” based decision.
You may find your ENFP is constantly getting fired for various seemingly unrealistic reasons such as insubordination.
“Unconventional and occasionally irreverent, ENFPs are seldom impressed by authority or rules. To the contrary! They pride themselves on their uniqueness and originality, they are talented at solving problems and overcoming obstacles, and they find creative ways to bend rules they consider unnecessary” Write Paul and Barbra Tieger in the book Just your type.
This includes any rules you, yourself are foolish enough to impose on the ENFP that they may disagree with. Oh and remember, you are only going to find out when the ENFP decides to break the rule, not when you make the rule. Make all the rules you want we love to break them.
You may also find that your ENFP has been fired for being intoxicated at work, or quit their job without regard anyone or anything in the household.
“ENFPs have what some call a ‘silly switch.’ They can be intellectual, serious, all business for a while, but whenever they get the chance; they flip that switch and become CAPTAIN WILDCHILD, the scourge of the swimming pool, ticklers par excellence. Sometimes they may even appear intoxicated when the “switch” is flipped. Hasty decisions based on deeply felt values may boil over with unpredictable results. More than one ENFP has abruptly quit a job in such a moment.”
ENFP’s hate conflict situations, in fact they will do everything in their power to avoid them. Telling your loved one you got fired is a conflict situation. I’ll let you put two and two together.
If you get in a relationship with an ENFP, you had either be rich or have a damn good savings plan.It is highly advised you take away his check book and A.T.M card.
The children of ENFP parents have no doubt in their mind that the ENFP love them; however, the ENFP creates a bipolar like bond with the child. “The ENFP exhibits an inconsistency in their roles with their children. At one moment, they might be their child’s best friend, laughing and whooping it up, and in the next moment they may appear the stern authoritarian. This inconsistency seems to be a result of a conflict between the ENFP’s genuine desire to relate to their children on the children’s level, and their compulsion to follow their deeply-felt value system. In other words, the ENFP wants to be their child’s friend, but if a value is violated, they will revert to the parental role to make sure their children understand the violation. This inconsistency may be confusing and frustrating for the children.”
Oh and since we are childlike in our nature, we know we know how to relate to the child better than you do. So be prepared for your style of parenting to be challenged and thwarted at every turn.
The trusty ENFP will also fuck up your kids socially, leading them down the rebel path of life that the ENFP lives. MYERS-BRIGGS TYPE INDICATOR GENERAL PROFILE published on the Purdue university website states. “As patrents, NF’s are sensitive to the viewpoint of their children, to the point of siding with them in a way, which reinforces the youngster’s antisocial, self-defeating behaviors.”
Besides raising your kid, the ENFP himself is a hypersensitive, overgrown, hyper emotional, Toys-R-Us kid; therefore, you will also be responsible for raising your ENFP.
An ENFP puts a great deal of emphasis on love; a love that is impossible, unrealistic, and unachievable to be given by another. The Purdue research again points to The Needy, clingy, attention whores ludicrous views.“compelled to pursue the impossible dream of a larger than life, giant-screen goddess who will be madonna, mistress, lover, whore ,mother, daughter, and wife,”
ENFP’S will make their mates a sexual experiment of:mind, body and soul. You’ll be required to give an unrealistic amount of physical attention to the ENFP, in addition you will never good enough be enough. “Sexually, The ENFP is creative, PERFECTIONIST, playful and affectionate” You will never be able to sexually satisfy the ENFP, you are not perfect, and if it’s not perfect we must do it again until it is.
In addition to the above list of requirements, you will also have to spend extraordinary amount of time, out of the house with your mate, and while you’re out of the house with him, he will be fantasying about every women that catches his eye.
“ENFPs have a difficult time staying focused and following things through to completion…. They are so in tune with all of the exciting possibilities of what could be, that they will always fantasize about a greener pasture out there somewhere. If they are not paired with a partner who enjoys new experiences, or who shares their idealistic enthusiasm, the ENFP may become bored. The ENFP who is bored and who is not focused will be very unhappy”
No big problem you say to yourself, it’s just fantasy, and he says everything right? Wrong, remember telling you we are bored with you is a source of conflict. So all your going to get is another evasive mask.
Do you want to let this chaotic, romantically intoxicated being, going out among the streets alone? Remember they are bored and unhappy with you.
If you are still interested in a long term relationship with this brash, long winded, arrogant, sexual miscreant who will likely return home from work without a job, turn your kids into antisocial loners, prevent your parenting skills, requires you to be a nymphomaniac, all day, everyday, and will not communicate his unhappiness to you, can I have your phone number?